[Arod23]

ok i have a situation. my friend who is getting married in a month. sent me an invite to her wedding. We used to be really close in high school but have drifted away from each other in recent years.. I would say i have probably spoken to her like 4 times in the past 4 years and nothing more than a quick email or instant message. I also have tried much harder to get in contact with her and she always seems busy. well busy as an excuse only goes so far with me.. and it takes 2 sides to make a friendship work. also if i go i dont know anyone and will have nobody to sit with. please advise

[jayleites]

I'd skip the wedding and maybe send a small gift.

[dwstargzr]

I wouldn't go. You never know her motives for inviting you... she could want to get back in contact with you and really couldn't think of a better way to do so -or- she could be "present fishing" as another poster put it. You knew her at one point so you should know which it is. I would suggest you send her a congratulations card and note that you regretfully are unable to make it.

[Katiesmama11]

I just wanted to give a shout out for all of the brides out there who are not "present fishing" and may have wanted to extend an invitation to someone who holds a dear place in ones memory. Even though your friendship has not stood the test of time, perhaps she wanted to honor the memory of your past closeness. I am not advocating that you attend, but when I read all of the jaded messages you have recieved, I thought I should speak up for this bride to be that could have the very best of intentions. When I am invited to a wedding, I send a card and a gift if I cannot attend, I do not know that this is a must do, but its just something I feel is appropriate. Even a small gift such as a wedding frame and a note that you will be thinking of them on their big day is a small, but thoughtful gesture. Good luck with your decision.