[ladee007]

i really want to marry him, but i just do not feel like planning the huge wedding he wants with all of our relatives( most we are not even close to). it will be expensive and we already have one child and i am six months pregnant with our second. i just want close family and friends. is there a way to compromise?

[JDstinger]

Shoot I wish my fiance was like you, just tell him how you feel expalin the situtation and tell him this is the way you will feel most comfortable with and you will enjoy your wedding more he can't say no to that

[river2run07]

just tell him about it... i think you need to communicate about this before you get married. i mean if you cannot compromise and talk now.. ummmm... best of luck!

[jasonex]

oh honey. you are right. as a matter of fact, elope. save the money. you need it. if you have a big affair, you will fight not just with each other but with family members and you will definitely not speak ever again to several people. the most important thing is that you are actually married. dont start off in the red. the economy is horrible and you will regred spending all that money on a wedding to feed a bunch of people who will bad mouth you any darn way. when you have extra money later on, have a party to celebrate at that time. goode luck.

[Simon G]

Together you agree on the small amount you want. See how many more he would have. Then half the difference. There you have both compromised.That may be too logical though.

[blackberetonawhitegirl]

My fiance is the same- wants the big churcch wedding with everyone he's ever met, but I'm not baptised or religious and my family is small. We've decided to invite only the most important people to ours, the people who have been around to see most of our relationship and to have a 'medium-sized' wedding, since he wants big and I want small. Let him know its not just his wedding- its the beginning of your life together and this will be the first of many many compromises. You both want to enjoy your day with your family and friends and if you already have a little family of your own started, you'll need to save money for them, instead of blowing it all on one day of cake and white lace. Good luck and congratulations!

[Hussein]

just tell him what you want and you can arrange not a big wedding or a small wedding just between it wont be that expensive

[ilove2teach36]

I have had the big wedding, with everyone you have ever known.. so to speak. It was a huge waste of money. You don't get to socialize with half the people that are there. I wish I would have kept it small and intimate. I have been to so many very beautiful small weddings. Everyone gets to visit and celebrate, and the strain on the purse strings is far less. My first wedding was over 200 people, almost $10,000. 20 years later I divorced and now am remarried. The second wedding was very small, immediate family members and a few close friends. Think we had 55 guests total. It was simple elegance. We used the money we would have spent on the wedding and took the honeymoon neither one of us had the first time around. You have children, try and get your man to see that the money that he wants to spend on the HUGE wedding could go toward, a house, furniture or college funds for your children.

[deptommyc]

There most certainly ought to be a way to compromise. The best thing I could think of is, if you don't already have a church picked out, find one that is somewhat smaller so you are forced to reduce the number. If this is already out of the question then you are going to have to kick your man in the shin and make him understand...lol.. Good luck with your marriage.