[Soldier]

I love my wife but she doesn't love herself. It hurts my heart that she doesn't see what I see in her. She is an amazing woman. She is very beautiful, she is a fantastic mother to our daughter and she has a terrific soul. She was physically, sexually and emotionally abused as a child and a young adult and it has really affected her self esteem. How can I help her see how beautiful she is?

[j swiss]

you cant..only she can....good luck pal...its an up hill battle.

[LadyLuV]

Well that is very sad, You seem like a very nice husband. Have you consider perhaps counseling/therapy? I know most people dont like that, but It can be worth a try. Also you are doing the right thing just keep telling her how great she is, and be there for her. You are a good man, stick with your wife. good luck.

[Praire Crone]

Just keep telling her and encourage her to seek some counseling. She probably could use it. Good Luck to you.

[Ashton]

just always assure her that she is a great person eventually it will rub off on her....

[Exotic Coconut]

always tell her she is beautiful& wonderful..i know i have some MAJOR self-esteem issues and my boyfriend tells me how beautiful i am, even tho i brush it off and tell him he is crazy...it still affects me in a good way. at least i know to him i am everything i know im not.

[MrsKitty]

Just remain a loving and supportive husband. Help her build her confidence and self esteem. She had been through a lot so the process to get over that may take time.

[karma7119]

Sounds like she may need professional help to get her to realize her self-worth. Her self esteem issues are deep rooted and will take time t undo. It is really admirable that you want to help. Try to get her to a counselor and continue to support her. Good luck!!just my 2 cents...

[cfoster001]

I think your wife is not letting go with her past and so it is affecting you and the family. She could use some counseling and it will take some time to get your wife back. I would also recommend a book called "Bad Childhood, Good Life" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. Keep doing what you are doing with telling her things. She needs to be positive and she needs to believe in herself that she can over come this. If she keeps going the way she is going, it is possible that your marriage will go too.

[purpleflutterbye_girl]

I would suggest that you try leaving her little cards or notes as reminders of how special she is to you as well as your daughter.. Its always nice to be reminded that we are appreciate.. Especially people who come from an abusive past it the little things that make all the difference..