[Alison C]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now, we love eachother very much. I have known him for about 31/2 years through mutual friends. He has 2 children, a girl 14 and a boy who is 7. I have a daughter who just turned 9. We have talked about getting married. This past friday my boyfriend found out his 14 year old daughter is pregnant. He is going to be 35 the end of the month. I told him that he needed to take his kids to his parents and be with them with out us and deal with the situation. I have been suspecting something was going on with her for a couple months now. I tryed telling him that something was wrong with her.(Now she has had this boyfriend for a couple years now too) Her mother has encouraged them to be together and how cute are they. Then when they were spending too much time together and sneaking off to see one another, OH then they were grounded from seeing eachother, so they faked a break up! Then My boyfriend lets him come over for the weekend with us. I had gone out with a couple friends came home, His Kelly and Logan were sleeping on an air mattress. I went down stairs and my boyfriend was sleeping on the floor with his son. I told him he needed to get up and come up stairs. We got up stairs and i pointed and said are you going to do something about that? He said that they were fine. I was so mad I told him that it would never happen again and that I don't want that kind of influence for my daughter. He said he understood.Well Sunday we had plans to go pick up my new bed, we had to drive 2 hours away to pick it up, so we had some time to talk. He says he understands if I don't want to be with him now that kelly is pregnant. I told him that for right now he needs to not worry about us and worry about his kids, and that as a friend I will be there for him and my heart goes out to him and his family. I was a young mom too so I understand the emotions of an unexpected pregnancy at a young age. I know its not his fault! Should I stick by his side and deal with it????This is a big part of my life and I see them all the time. I thank you all for the input you have helped me. You all (most of you) are right. I do want to be there for him. What I don't know( and who knows) is when she comes here to stay with her dad and the baby is here. And her mother's side of the family has told him that he is to never come around again and that they will call the police if he does. Know you know as well as I do that first chance she gets she is going to run away with him. She thinks she loves this boy sooooo much and she probably realy does.

[Lexi.]

I would say yes, stick with him, especially since you've had the same experience. It's not really his fault that she got pregnant either way.

[Gypsy Queen]

With or without you by his side, this girl is pregnant. Yes you should, you would be giving your daughter the wrong message if you didn't...

[eikcaj231]

In my opinion yes, you should stick with him. You have talked about marriage with him, which is a life-time comitment, not just a commitment when its convenient. If this had happened after marriage, would you leave him? Times can get tough sometimes, but that just means you need to hang on harder. He needs you right now. If you are going to leave him anyway, now is the time to do it. Don't toy with him. Make up your mind and do it.

[shawty1286]

If you truly love him then yes stick by his side but if you don't think you will be able to put up with these kind of situations then don't worry about him or his kids and you go on your own path don't confuse your kids with different men in there lives. I am just trying to give you advise what you do is your business but i really think that if this is the man you would want to marry and don't care about how he treats with his difficulties that come and you not being able to say much then be there for him. Just think about it do you want this man to tell your daughter what she can and cant do or would it bother you? If it bothers you then leave and don't look back you could end up hurting your kids in the end by thinking that he is going to be around then you leave or he dose and then they are heart broken or to attached to him. Good luck and i hope all goes well. *Mother of 2 year old and 32 weeks pregnant

[dragonfly51]

It's partly his fault. He is the one that allowed them to sleep together. He lost control of the situation when he didn't educate his daughter (don't say it was all her mother's responsibility) about sex, birth control, and pregnancy. You are right that he should deal with this himself. He does need to take his daughter somewhere and he and her mother deal with this. You are being very mature in this situation and looking out for your children. Kudo's to you!!!

[~Christina~]

Well first off you have to remember he is the father and you unfortunately have not been in the picture long enough to have much of a say so on the situation, so you really have no choice but to either deal with it and support both him and his daughter or move on with your life. But i will say he should never ever allow a boyfriend of a 14 yr old girl to even be in the same house let alone sleep next to each other, that is what promotes this kind of behavior with teens when the parents don't teach the proper methods of behavior!! But she is pregnant and neither of you can control that. If you love him and his kids then what's wrong with sticking with them through this?? I would just make darn sure that little girl is aware of the fact that no one is raising that baby but herself with of course some help considering her age and if she goes to school. There's gonna be a lot of obsticles and he needs to focus on this and help educate her in parenting and i'm sure you'll be a strong influence in that department considering you're a mother!! Good luck.