[GymRat]

I am 35 weeks pregnant with a baby boy. We already have a 3.5 year old little girl. I am so depressed because no one seems to care that this baby is even coming. My so called "friends" didn't even throw me a shower(keep reading before you jump to conclusions). Now I dont mean a shower for gifts but just getting together to acknowledge the fact that a new baby is on the way. Is that so wrong of me? I am pregnant and I realize sometimes I can be irrational. I am just really depressed about it.

[45gh45]

awwwwww!!! that's so rubbish :-( I don't think it's the fact it's your second that is affecting them, maybe they're a bit caught up in their own lives at the mo...just make a big show of it :-)

[Zepp]

I am sorry you don't seem irrational about this. I'll throw a shower for you here on Yahoo Answers! hahaha jk. But if you really feel upset then throw yourself one, or maybe your friends have a surprise shower for you. you never know keep up the hope! but if you really feel bad I say you just throw yourself one. lol.

[I has good advice]

Well you don't have good friends. Find some new ones. If I knew you, i wouldn't help either if u acted "irrational" all the time. lighten up lady, gosh.

[Niagara]

It is not irrational. We all can feel that way... but from a mother of 3 take it from me, that is totally normal. People always make a fuss about the first baby... but the second one is like Oh she is having another one. Only your closest of friends will probably think to give you a gift of any kind and probably after the baby is born. If they do give you a shower... then be thankful, but do not expect one. It is these little expectations that do not pan out that causes us to get depressed. You do what you have to do and don't worry or expect anything from the others.

[nick_shann]

Unfortunately this is happens to most families. The birth of a child is a wonderful thing but I think when it is your first everyone gets a little more excited. Most people do not throw baby showers for the second born. I also know you can get a little depressed before you have your baby so you might be feeling down anyway. You might want to make or buy some birth announcements now to be ready for the joyous occasion. Fill them out and send them out as soon as you can after the birth. Congratulations

[Lynne W]

The first baby is a radical change in the life of a couple. I believe that all the fuss is because of (a) the unbelievable first-time costs associated with the stuff a baby needs, and (b) the total glee of the family and friends of the new mom/dad, as they make a life changing move.I wouldn't be depressed...I would believe that you would be empowered since you know exactly what you're getting into. Plus, you still have that half-ton of baby stuff that you've used only once, and don't have to replace. Once the baby's born, you'll see some gifts come in for the new one. Where I am (Michigan), the non-first pregnancies occasionally have diaper showers, with gifts being only diapers, wipes, shampoos, etc. that need replenishing. Occasionally, mind you. Not everyone does it.

[motherhood]

Everyone will get excited once the baby actually comes. But it's always worse with another baby. My daughter was 3 when my son was born, and you'll never love your second as much as the first. You just won't have the time to devote to the second one as much as you did with the first. The first few months of having a second child are HELL.

[Nirma]

you never know keep up the hope! but if you really feel bad I say you just throw yourself one. lol.

[Baby Gonzalez]

You have every right to feel that way, but I think you should let them know how you feel. Maybe they don't even realize that they are acting that way. A new baby is very special no matter how many kids you have. What about family? Right now you are pregnant and moody, so if you want to yell at them all go ahead and do it, then just blame it on the pregnancy LOL, at least it will get their attention!!