[ajmaston]

My mom is adopting a newborn and I don't know how to deal with my resentment. I know the baby didn't do anything wrong, but I can't help feeling saddened that she didn't even consider asking her children our opinion. My mom couldn't care less about our daily lives because she's been so consumed with the adoption process. I just wish she wanted to take care of us as much as she does the baby. I've prayed about it but can't seem to let go of the bitterness. wow...I wish I could email you Debidel...but I really pity you. I thank you for answering, though, because seeing how disillusioned you are makes me realize that I'm happy with myself. Just because you pray doesn't mean you don't sin. Also, whether right or not, the fact is that I feel emotionally abandoned by my mother. I don't know how your relationship with your mother is/was, but I'm trying to help mine by getting advice from people who actually have hearts...not saying you don't, but you certainly didn't prove your case with that rude comment.

[Jordonna Venus]

That is big changed. Me, I have adopted cousin. It is hard to get used to but you love adopted baby.

[MissKitty]

That's natural, most kids would feel the same way but what's interesting (and I know you won't believe it now) is you will love the baby once you've had time to get used to it. Give the baby a chance and you will be so happy to have another sibling, trust me.

[DebiDel]

Resentment? What's the matter with you? I can't believe anyone who prays could possibly be so selfish. First, it's none of your business if your mother adopts a child. Why should she have asked you? Is that what parents do, ask their kids permission to have more kids? You sound like a jealous little brat. I certainly hope your bitterness and resentment of this child doesn't emerge as abuse or neglect of this new baby. Second, take care of yourself when she's busy...do you need your diapers changed or something?Must be I hit a nerve. We all need affection from our mothers but in turn you should be ready to give affection and patience to her as well. This is an exciting time for her and since you're probably going to be gone in a few short years instead of begrudging her this new love try a little bit of understanding and happiness for a person you care about. Love is a 2 way street. I think you should pray a little harder because it's NOT okay to think like you do.You also don't say how old you are. I think if you were still really young you would have mentioned that.