[They Call Me The Brett]

I was adopted in Texas in 1981 , now 27 years old I would like to meet both parents. My adoption agency charges a fee to give me the info and also says i have to go to councling. Is there a way around this ?

[The Little Bad]

get a PI.....that is what my sister did and he found her!! I have no idea what it cost, but it does't cost a thing to ask some!! Good luck and hope you find them and that your relationship is as good as me and my bio moms is!

[txsteelersfreak]

thats really weird... my name is also brett and i also live in Texas

[nutterorsaintuchoose]

have you the original birth certificate ? my people don't move far from were there born hun try there first

[blooming chamomile]

Try registering with the ISSR. http://www.isrr.net/If you haven't already, look through and register with the on line adoption reunion registries. adoption.com has one; there are several others that you can find through a search. Kind of a long shot but worth trying.Where is your original birth certificate? If the state has it, you may be able to view that. (I'm not in Texas, or familiar with agency adoptions, just throwing out ideas.) That would get you their names and you could try to look them up on line. Try intelius.com if you have names.Counseling is probably a good idea, but to be honest I think that fee is...just crap. I would be so mad.

[Suzy Sunshine]

Darlin' you've already met your parents. Chances are you're sick and tired of them by now.Agencies require counseling because choosing to contact birth parents is a very serious decision and one that people often reach in times or great stress or confusion. If you take the time to examine your feelings and decision and ultimately move forward, understand that you are no likely to meet a birth father. I hope that it works well for you, but I would love to see you take some personal time to reflect and then complete the counseling before you think of proceeding.

[Pat Brown]

Snowwill has given you a good answer and it is wonderful to see the adoption resources listed out for your help. I have been an adoptions counselor, and I know there is information in many adoption records that would come as a shock to the person adopted. Counseling is not meant to insult your coping abilities and maturity, but prepare you for the way new information might change the way you view your own self, your life story, your adoption, and both your adoptive parents and birth parents(and their families). And, yes, I absolutely agree that the information in that record belongs to YOU.It sounds to me like the easy way is to pay the fee, meet the counselor, and see what help you can get in arranging a meeting from the agency. Do some reading to prepare yourself and know what questions you might be asked, and know what information you want the agency to provide.Only if that doesn't get you anywhere would you need to go to the time and effort of searching adoption registries, using adoption search services, etc, , and try to locate the birth parents on your own.