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Have you thought about going to see the government department that handled your friends adoption? If they can't help much then I suggest you see a lawyer that specialises in past/current adoptions. I know where I live (in Australia) that is what you do (my husband is adopted, it was closed but once he turned 18 he didn't sign a piece of paper that says his biological mum cant contact him, so technically both of them can contact each other). I have also got a friend who used to live in Virginia and he had a friend that was adopted and he visited a lawyer who helped him along the right path . (luckily they personally knew the lawyer, so it was free)